Cynically yours

Many of  the single persons I have met lately tend to hide their loneliness behind a mask of laughter in order not to become bitter. It turns out that the more time passes, the more they view their lives from an ironical angle and they eventually indulge into cynicism. Cynicism becomes a sort of barrier which protects them from the outside world; that of the happily married couples and of relationships which do work.

What many of those single persons do not know, however, is that very often those who seem to be happy inside a relationship are also those who can be the most cynical persons on earth. Why? Because they do not  feel totally fulfilled. Thus, be it in or out of a relationship we all tend to be cynical at one point of time giving way to the following question: To what extent can we go?

We are evolving in a generation where AIDS, money and finding a job are predominant. No job = no self worth, no job = no respect, no job = no money, no job = no sentimental relationship. Yes, we are in a generation where we have a price to pay even for a display of emotions. You love me? Okay, how much are you ready to invest in this relationship in terms of time (and money)?  and the funny thing is that you better be pretty confident about your reply. How more cynical can that be?

We have set the standards so high that we have completely forgotten about the basics, i.e to allow love to breathe.Giving it some space and allowing it to move freely without asking whether it can be dangerous or not is no easy task.People are afraid of love because of all the consequences that might derive from it (heartbreak, attachment, responsibilities, separation). They prefer to take the risk of being cynical rather than surrendering to the only thing that really makes sense.

Whether you're single or not, the best relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself. Self love is the answer, that's no secret. As long as you're aware of that, bye bye cynicism and welcome lightheartedness.

The Beatles were right: All you need is (self)love.